Bespoke 1:1 Coaching Incubator
Isn’t it time you figured out what you really want- without rolling around in guilt and drama?
You don’t want to stay, necessarily. But leaving feels impossible. You daydream about being single again, but breaking up a marriage feels wrong on every level.
If this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
There is a way out of the cluster F....
So what to do? Some women think, ‘it would be easier if he got hit by a car. Then at least I get to play the role of a grieving widow.’ A lot of people try to talk this through with friends, but friends bring their own agenda to the table, and also. . . this feels too precious, too important, too vulnerable to figure out over a glass of wine
And The Good News
The women I work with? They don’t know more than you do, but they are no longer willing to pretend everything is ok. They are ready to raise the bar and play with possibilities.
PLAYING WITH POSSIBILITIES
Maybe you fear that once you start talking, all hell will break loose.
Honestly? The opposite will happen.
That’s because I provide a safe space where you can hear yourself think. And as you start to look at your options with an open mind and declutter your thoughts, you will start to sense which direction to go in. Translation: your next steps will come from a place of clarity and peace, not drama and stress. It makes all the difference.
The biggest myth when it comes to relationships is that is has to look and feel the same forever and ever. But getting crystal clear on what’s right for you as you’re growing and evolving, and as your relationship is changing. . . is so much more rewarding than putting up with dying inside.
My clients are not interested in meh relationships or watered-down lives.
Life is too short.
Period.
YOUR ROAD TO CLARITY, PART ONE.
When we work together your inner wisdom will be part of the equation, so are my finely tuned tools. Inside this incubator you’ll slow down enough to find clarity around all the things you’re currently struggling with. Like:
-What are you angry about?
-What are you fed up with on repeat?
-What conversations are you not having?
-How have you changed over the last couple of years?
-Are your standards too high?
-You're afraid of being the one who wants change.
-How do I break the patterns and be loving?
These are tough questions to sit with, but only if you avoid them. Once you spend time with them and find clarity, everybody wins.
You. Your partner. Your relationship, regardless of how it might change.
As a result of working with me my clients finally
-Find the spark again and ride off into the emotional sunset.
-Leave the marriage and never look back.
-Make an empowering exit plan.
-Invite family and friends over for a Conscious Uncoupling Ceremony
-Get their own house but keep the relationship.
-Decide to have an open relationship.
-Stay friends, drop the romance, but raise the kids together.
What’s in the cards for you? The possibilities are endless.
I will help you find the outcome that is right for you. And no, we won’t rush it. This is why we’ll spend four months together. My tools are designed to work for your life, your values, your dreams, and your soul. I won’t shoehorn you into pre-meditated solutions. This journey is more like a treasure hunt, not a draining blame fest.
The motto here is:
answer with clarity, not drama.
Your road to clarity, part two
Here we will transform all of your "ah-ha" moments and wisdom into tools you can use right away. So no! You don’t have to wait until you have all the answers before things start to shift in the right direction.
You get to implement meaningful changes weekly. Which leads to joyful shifts like:
-Setting boundaries, instead of saying yes through gritted teeth.
-Asking for what you need, instead of relying on your partner being a mind reader.
-Forgiving yourself for past mistakes, instead of letting them dictate your future.
-Listening to your desires, guilt free.
-Feeling lighter, because you trust yourself more.
-Understanding that figuring out your life is something you can do now, not on your death bed.
Which leads to:
-You go to a conference without worrying what he will eat while you are gone.
-Not doing twice as many dishes when you get back from a girls weekend out of guilt.
-Going to bed early while he watches that show you never liked.
-Letting him clean the house even if it isn't the way you would.
-Sitting down to a realistic conversation about division of labor.
-Being able to communicate about sensitive topics without anyone feeling wrong.
The motto here is:
‘less speculations, more experimenting.’
HOW IT WORKS:
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Your wisdom + my bespoke tools + experimenting = winning combo.
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We’ll spend four months together, ten sessions in total.
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The first month we’ll meet weekly, just to keep the momentum going.
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The next three months we’ll meet bi-weekly. This gives you plenty of time to reflect, experiment, and see the changes you seek roll out in real time.
Some common questions:
What does it mean to be 'divorce curious'?
This means you're at a crossroads about how to move forward in your relationship. It seems like you've tried everything from self-help to therapy. Or you're so drained by busy lifestyles that you know something isn't right, but you can't find the bandwidth to even try any more.
You're not ready to choose either way if you're going to complete the relationship. But you can't find the space to hear yourself think.
Divorce curious is the overlooked time where we literally are committing not to a decision, but to an exploration.
You don't need advice. You need support getting clarity.
I don’t want to drag this out over four months. I’d love to move this along faster, is that an option?
Absolutely! You can join the one day zoom immersive. Or create a 2 night personal retreat experience. Both of these move your timeline forward quickly!
What if I don’t find any answers?
That's perfect! The whole point of this is to explore. You will absolutely find clarity about yourself. From there answers get to percolate.
I’ve been married for 20 years. What’s the point of rocking the boat?
20 years is certainly an investment in time. However, as a death doula I saw many people preparing for their transition. The most incredible advise I got from a 90 year old Montanan was "people are too afraid now! Go live your life and have adventures!" I think your precious life is worth at least asking some questions and finding out what freedom means to you. That boat may yet sprout wings and fly!
Do you only see married couples?
No! I see anyone in a committed relationship.
I would love to do this work, but I can’t afford it.
While I can’t speak to your specific financial situation, I do know that unhappy women spend a shitload of money on things they don’t need, just to numb the pain. Totally understandable, but it all adds up, and a year later they might have some more dresses and vacation photos from Istanbul, but their relationship is still circling the drain. Also, once the relationship drama is over, these women get to funnel their energy into promotions, creative projects, money-making ideas, and create memories for life. In my opinion, no one can afford to not do this work.
How do I know if we are good fit?
If you're already asking yourself reflective questions and know you're good at taking action (even if you need encouragement to do so!) you're in the right place. If you're looking for someone to give you a yes or no answer or a formula for relationships I'm not the place for you. We'll be a fit if you're ready to reinsert some of your own magic into your life!
Still not sure? Book a call. I'd be happy to connect!
WHO THIS IS FOR
This work is perfect for women who are sick of ping-ponging between staying or going. They want to feel like a leading lady, not a supportive character in their own life, passively waiting around to get instructions. These women love the idea of discovering what they really want, play with possibilities, and look forward to implementing what they learn in the sessions in real life.
This work is not a great fit for people who just want someone to complain to, not interested in looking at themselves, gloss over the problems with a fancy trip, and secretly hope they can manifest a great relationship without having to change anything.
It’s not for people who think that they are growing while letting him have affairs.
Not for people who think, "But I can hold it all, I just need to be more patient.”
My work is for women who have it together in every area of life, except this.
If this is you, you have nothing to lose to begin your personal treasure hunt.
I can't wait to see what possibilities you set free!